Last Saturday was a cold and rainy day, but I went out to pick up anyway. It's easy to pick up when it's nice out like it was a couple weeks ago, but I think the gods of pickup reward sticking in there when the going gets tough. So let's get going!

During my pickup and LR of HBBrunette I had a hottie waitress at Chili's. She's like a solid 8, tight latina curves great great booty, nice body. Just so tight. Great face too, just a little bit of lavender makeup and long black hair.

Ok here's how I #closed her originally:

She was working at Chili's while I bought my instadate HBBrunette in. I followed the waitress rules that were taught me and demonstrated.

There's a hot Puerto Rican waitress serving us, and I flirt with her. I follow the waitress rules that I learned from Sebastian from The Approach (I actually got lucky and saw Seb do this in action):

1. Get it out of the job/customer relationship.
2. Get it to appear like she's just doing her job.
3. Be discreet.

1. Ok step one. I was in with my date HBBrunette and we're wet but cheery. HBWaitress walks up to my table.

HBWaitress: Hi, welcome to Chili's. I'm HBWaitress and I'll be serving you tonight.
SL: Hi HBWaitress, I'm Searchlight and this is HBBrunette. How are you tonight?

Ok now I've gotten it out of the professional relationship a little bit. She knows my name.

Time to "put it back into the professional relationship", but in a way that makes everything flirty.

HBWaitress: I'm good, how are you two?
SL: Peachy. Anyway, we're about ready to order. Can we get a couple of presidente margaritas, easy on the margarita mix?

HBWaitress laughs.

HBWaitress: Ok, two margaritas. Would you like any appetizers with that?
SL: Yeah let's do some chips and salsa.

I thank HBWaitress and she goes off with our order. I get back into talking with HBBrunette and she's smiling despite putting off a little jealous vibe.

HBWaitress brings our chips and drinks over and asks if we're ready to order.

SL: Yeah. Tell me HBWaitress, what's the absolutely best thing you've got here?
(Sebastian line repeated exactly the same as I saw him)
HBWaitress: Well I like the chicken cesar pita.
SL: Done.
HBBrunette orders and HBWaitress leaves.

Now came the really part for both my date and my waitress. My goal is that the next time HBWaitress comes by, I'm deep in an interesting conversation and totally ignore her.

First off let me tell you about my experience with Sebastian. He gave me a hands on interactive demonstration on getting waitresses. He explained what he just did right after he did it. Introduce yourself and your friends or date. It gets it out of the client relationship and you won't just be "some guy" flirting with her.

Then you need to be the one to get it back into the client relationship yourself. If she ends the flirting, you're left at a position of weakness if you try to reengage. So you start flirting with her in a way that to anyone but you two they think she's just doing her job. You can order silly drinks (Sebastian got a pink lemonade with two limes at the two restaurants we ate at) and ask her what her favorite thing on the menu is. It shows you've got some personality and you're screening her/finding about her a little bit.

But if you keep hitting on her you'll see like every other AFC she's ever served. This is where you've got to rise above and beyond it. So that one of the times your waitress comes by, you need to be in a really good conversation with whoever you're with that's either intensely personal and emotional, or really really interesting. And you pay no attention to the waitress.

You need to be leading that conversation. If you are, whoever you're with will be entranced by you too. Sebastian and I were talking about travel and Europe when our waitress came back and he completely ignored her. She stood there like an AFC girl for like a minute hoping Sebastian would notice her, then walked off without saying anything. When he was cheerful to her again the next time she came by, you could see he'd gotten her.

So I spring a screening question onto HBBrunette.

SL: What's the craziest non-sexual thing you've ever done?

She tells me she's been windsurfing in Cancun. I got lucky a bit because I'd also been windsurfing, so I use this to build HBBrunette's connection with me. But even if it hadn't been something I'd done I could've started talking about something crazy I've done before HBWaitress got back to our table.

I execute perfectly. I'm talking about windsurfing down under when HBWaitress comes by. HBBrunette is hanging on every word and I totally ignore HBWaitress. I actually feel a little like a jerk at first because you can she she's almost a little hurt by this and that's not what I want to do, but it's helping put us on even footing so I'm not the AFC chasing the waitress.

We eat and now I was busting on HBBrunette a little bit just for fun. Looking back maybe HBWaitress saw HBBrunette and me going back and forth laughing and busting each other which was good.

When we're almost done I order another round of drinks. We drink up and I'm polite to HBWaitress but not flirting. I give her a big smile one of the times she comes over though when HBBrunette and I were at a good point and both having fun.

I get the bill and pay it on a credit card. I write in a normal tip. The tip can't make you but it can break you. If you undertip you look cheap, but if you overtip you look like you're trying to buy her attention. I just do a regular 20% like I do with all good waitresses.

I extract HBBrunette and walk her to the door. I feel a little nervous thinking I'm about to pull some James Bond stuff. We walk outside the restaurant into the mall that's outside.

SL: HBBrunette, I need to use the men's room. Wait here.

I walk in and do go the bathroom. That's important for step 3, being discreet. Why walk back into the restaurant? Had to use the bathroom. Then I "run into" HBWaitress and get struck with a spontaneous idea!

SL: Hey, HBWaitress. You know what? You're one of the most fun waitresses I've had in a long time.

She smiles at me.

SL: I don't want to make my blind date jealous, but I'd love to grab a cup of coffee with you sometime.

She blushes. I then just follow Sebastian's instructions about the only part of his pickup I didn't see.

I leaned back and didn't do anything.

She took out her pad and pen and wrote her name and phone number on it. I had to stay composed but I felt like a kid again. I just pulled it off and I have a cute chick waiting outside for me too! I put the number in my pocket and try to walk as slowly as I can outside and tried not to skip like a little kid.

I took HBBrunette back to my place and laid her that night. It really pumped me up. All the stuff I learned, the stuff I saw. I really could do it. Daytime cold approach, 8.5+ brunette hottie!

I almost forgot about HBWaitress but when HBBrunette left the next day I found her # in my pocket on her waitress's pad sheet.

I showered, then I called HBWaitress figuring she'd probably be working later and I wanted to call while I'm fresh in her mind.

HBWaitress: Hello?
SL: Hey HBWaitress, how are you?
HBWaitress: You called!
SL: Okay, deep breath. How are you?
HBWaitress: I'm good, how are you?
SL: Oh I'm doing ok.
HBWaitress: You sound tired.
SL: Yeah got drunk with one of my friends last night. How's work treating you?
HBWaitress: It's okay. I'm just doing it for a couple months.
SL: Not your thing?
HBWaitress: The money is good.
SL: Yeah I like that. You're a girl with her priorities straight.
HBWaitress: No, I don't mean it like that.
SL: No it's good. Work hard and play hard right?

She chuckles.

SL: So what do you like to do to play?
HBWaitress: I like to spend time with friends, go out, you know.
SL: Oh really.
HBWaitress: Yeah you know, spend time with my people.
SL: Yeah sounds real fun. The rain's getting me though HBWaitress.
HBWaitress: Yeah I know what you mean.
SL: That's the only thing I don't like about living here. I even like the winter, but right now there's no snow to ski in yet but it's too cold to go to the beach or walk around. What do you like better, winter or summer?
HBWaitress: Oh I like SUMMER! Winter I freeze my ass off.

I laugh and we talk like that for a while. We just vibe for like 10 minutes, and I tell her I just wanted to call her so she wouldn't forget me. I used to say I called early so I wouldn't forget her, but I realize how bad that is now. That's Verbalizing High Value, which is bad and demonstrates low value. Verbalizing Low Value when it's not true actually demonstrates high value since you don't care and you're trying to make others feel comfortable.

HBWaitress: Oh Searchlight I couldn't forget you.
SL: Alright HBWaitress, don't let me run across your mind too much. You might spill a drink on someone!

She laughs.

HBWaitress: You're full of yourself Searchlight.
SL: Bye now.

And I hang up my phone without listening to her reply. I do my thing, change my sheets in the bedroom and straighten my things out in the kitchen and living room.

Last night after work I'm getting ready for bed when I get a pleasant surprise. My phone rings.

SL: Hello?
HBWaitress: Hey Searchlight. Remember me?
SL: How could I forget?

A woman I picked up calling me back soon. I could get used to this life...

HBWaitress says she has the night off from work and asks if I go out with her.

SL: I'm really tired, but you know what sounds good to me? Let's have one drink and watch a movie.
HBWaitress: Hmm ok.
SL: Just one thing. The bar I'm thinking is pretty classy. Do you have a nice skirt and top?

She says she does and we agree to meet near where she works at.

I meet her and kiss her once on the lips and say hello. She looks really good in a short white miniskirt and matching top. Her hair is fixed just right and she's wearing bright red lipstick.

SL: Hey honey, must be nice to have a night off work to just, relax and unwind. Let yourself go.

She breathes deeply and says yes. We start walking towards the bar near my house.

She compliments me on how I like. I almost start busting on her, but I remember not to.

SL: You look better.

I wink too and she blushes.

SL: It must have taken you a lot of time to get ready. I appreciate you taking so much time to look good for me and it paid off.

We start talking about work. She asks about what I do but I just tell her like it's not a big deal. I ask how how work has been for her and she says she doesn't like her job but it pays well.

SL: If you could do anything in the world and money wasn't an issue what would you do?
HBWaitress: I'd be an artist.

She talks about how she loves to paint and I just listen without interrupting or using any C&F.

SL: Yes HBWaitress I wish we lived in a world where we could just follow our dreams. But I want a family and I need to be able to support my wife and children so I work my job. But I like it, it's not bad to me.

She nods and we get quiet for a little bit. We get to the sports bar I was taking her to.

She looks around and I can see she's a little pissed we came to a dive. I'm laughing inside. This is the real cocky and funny if you know what I mean.

We get into the bar and I yell over at the bartender "Two coronas with lime!";

I hand HBWaitress a $20 and say go get our drinks.

We settle in and she becomes comfortable pretty quickly in this place. She tells me about growing up and I tell her about my family. I ask if she's eaten and she says yes, and I haven't so I order some chicken wings for myself.

We keep talking and I'm polite but not that social with the bartender. I want her to feel special like I was flirting with just her because she was great and #closed her because she was special. She's definitely into me so I only want to make her feel good and let her know she's not just another girl.

I eat about half the wings but they aren't good (I come to this bar because it's the closest to my apartment).

SL: This place is really noisy. Let's get out of here, go somewhere where we can relax more. You're in a crazy place like this five nights a week.

SL: Have you ever had ice wine?
HBWaitress: No.
SL: Oh you have to try it.

She agrees and we make the short walk back to my apartment. On the way I point out a building that's on the local historical register and talk about the story behind it to occupy her logical mind.

We get into my place.

SL: Okay I have to work early tomorrow unlike you Miss HBWaitress so I'm going to have to kick you out soon. But we'll have a glass of wine first.
HBWaitress: Ok I should go soon too.

I put a Family Guy DVD on and start it then pour us both glasses of wine and ask HBWaitress to microwave some Chinese food from the fridge. I hand two forks to HBWaitress and take the wine into the living room. I spread a blanket and we sit on the floor drinking ice wine and I start eating Chinese food, then hand her a fork and she eats some too.

We're eating Chinese food and drinking ice wine and talking a little. It gets quiet for a second.

HBWaitress: I'm not sleeping with you tonight Searchlight.
SL: HBWaitress, you're absolutely beautiful. But I do have work tomorrow early I'm afraid.
HBWaitress: What do you mean?

I kiss her on the lips.

SL: Relax. Between us there is only comfort. Unwind. There is nothing here but us having a nice time watching a silly DVD. Enjoy your night off and let us each enjoy other's company.
HBWaitress: Who was the woman with you the other night?
SL: Nosy girl. A friend set us up but she's not my type. I need a woman who is tender but outgoing. Practical but passionate. I need a woman who loves art and would make a good wife even though I still won't marry for another few years. I'm past women like her, though she is a very good person. Not my type.

HBWaitress just nods, and I pull her close to me and hold her. I talk about the DVD that's on for a little bit, it's a funny episode. Then it's about to end.

SL: You ever feel like the city is too much HBWaitress?
HBWaitress: What do you mean Searchlight?
SL: I mean we lose touch with ourselves and each other here. In the countryside, on a night like this, we could cuddle by the fireplace and there'd be no noise, no lights, no distractions from ourselves and each other. You feel free, you feel free to take whatever you want in a place like this.
HBWaitress: Yeah...

I kiss her once softly, then a second time. She kisses me back and soon we're making out. I mute the TV and turn the lights down low.

SL: You have to go soon HBWaitress.

I start kissing her again and soon find my way to her legs. I reach up her legs under her skirt and she's very wet. I take her panties off.

HBWaitress: I just met you.
SL: Isn't this crazy HBWaitress? We're absolutely crazy.

I finger her and take out a condom. She doesn't say anything, so I unzip my fly and put a condom on, then start to have sex with her in the living room. After a few minutes I say let's go the bedroom and that's where we spend the rest of the night.

In the morning, I get up early and go downstairs to get coffee and bagels for both of us, then come back up with a cup. I shower and get ready to leave for work, but we end up having morning sex. Damn latinas! I was dead tired all day, but well worth it.

Things in my life are working out. Everything's in great perspective right now and I'm happier than I've ever been. Thanks again to all the people that I've learned from past and present, things are amazing for me now.

-SL

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