This is like multiple FR's combined into one. First off, before I begin, I'll say that I took theApproach seduction workshop in NYC last weekend, and it was awesome. I'm going to post a review on that later.

I'll start with my Thursday night. I promote at Lotus on Thursday nights (if anyone wants to ever get put on the list let me know. the crowd is usually pretty solid). A girl I met on myspace came. She came alone, so basically I knew it was on when she got there. I went very direct on her. i came outside and met her on the street corner and gave her a kiss on the lips, even though it was the first time we've ever met. took her hand and brought her over to the club. i got her in right away, in front of everyone else. once inside we got a drink, danced and were making out. she ended up coming home with me, and i ended up bedding her that night. there was some initial LMR, but i got through it by agreeing with her verbally while escalating physically.

keys to the lay:
-leading (bringing her all over the club, taking her hand, making everything go smoothly)
-social proof (cutting the line)

I think those were the two biggest keys. I didn't have a chance to ask her when she knew she wanted to sleep with me, but i plan on asking her that next time i see her.

friday afternoon: i was hanging out at union square park during the day. did a few approaches. first couple i stumbled my words too fast. didn't work obiviously. finally approach a girl, commenting on her tattoo. immediate interest. she's visiting from the south for the weekend with family. i get her to stop talking, then lead her to go sit down on a park bench. we chat for about 30-40 minutes. we exchange numbers. i call her later that night, no answer.

keys to initial good response:
-slow talking
-good eye contact
-leading

i think the number one reason it went nowhere was because i didn't touch her enough. once we were sitting on the park bench, there was no touching whatsoever. i should've insta-dated her and window shopped or something.

friday night: my natural friend and i are in a cab munching away on our food when we spot two girls in the cab next to us. nice and cute. he asks them where they're going. they answer and we meet them at a bar there. after last call, we buy 12 beers and head back to his place. nothing too special but we end up making out with them. i felt like we could've double teamed the hotter one if her friend wasn't there to be honest.

things did well: confidence, eye contact

the only thing i can think of to explain the initial open from another cab is because they were horny and were attracted to us.

saturday: went to the dave concert. again me and natural friend are winging each other. going up to groups one focused on his target the other holding the entire group. we're doing pretty well. natural goes off by himself with a girl. i go up to some girl standing alone. we start talking. i immediately start the touching. we keep on talking, but she's being playfully resistant. so i keep pushing her away, acting like i'm going to go, and i turn around to walk away and she pulls me back.

we move to a more secluded area. start making out. slowing escalating. finally end up outside of her car in the parking lot by the end of the show fooling around.

keys to success:
-push/pull (everytime she showed some resistance i would push away and act like i was going to walk away and she'd pull me right back)
-eye contact
-constant touching
-slow escalation

will see how it goes when i call her this week.

on the way back i lose my friends cuz they go o nthe ferry earlier and i get stuck there for like 2 hours. meet these two girls while waiting. start talking to them, just being social. start to notice the hotter one throwing me shit. so i start with light touching. by the time we get to manhattan, we're lightly holding hands, and i'm rubbing my hands up and down her arm. get her number and give her a kiss goodbye on the lips.

head over to a club to meet up with my friends. while i'm there, see a cute girl walk by. open her with, "hey you look familiar." we start talking, i immediately ask her if she can dance and move her over to the dance floor. we start dancing, then she tells me she has to hang out with her friends who are in from cali and gives me her number. as she's about to go, i pull her back in and give her a kiss on the lips and tell her i'll call her.

all in all, this was a great weekend. i didn't really run any "routines" just told stories, vibed, held eye contact, was confident, and started the touching early and maintained it in the instances that i was successful. i will see how these other numbers pan out. i have some other numbers that i got this weekend, but they were through circle of friends, so they were significantly easier to get. these were all initial cold approaches that i didn't know until i met them.

regardless, i'm happy with the step in the right direction and my commitment to giving me a taste of what's possible. i feel like i'm on the edge of a breakout right here, and if i keep working at it, it's going to come.

Santino

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